Om Swami
What are practical rules for forgiving someone who hurt me?
Release the anger and tell them honestly
If you don't let go of rage and anger, that is nobody's problem but yours. Tell the person you are hurt and have not yet come to terms with it. One day it won't matter as much.
The second rule of forgiveness is that you tell them you are really hurt by such and such action of theirs and that you have not yet been able to come to terms with it.