Om Swami
How can I look at the person who hurt me differently so I can let go?
Ask about their intention
When someone's action hurts you and you cannot agree with it, ask what their intention was, not what they did. This will give you a new perspective, though it won't necessarily make you accept their action.
The question is not what they did but what their intention was. If the other person genuinely meant to do good to you but ended up causing damage...