Om Swami
Why is it so hard to forgive someone who deeply betrayed me?
Forgiveness comes after the pain is lived
The question of forgiveness arises only when something inherently unforgivable has happened. It's impossible to forgive without first going through the trauma of betrayal and abandonment over a prolonged period.
It is impossible to forgive without first going through, for an adequately long period, the trauma of betrayal and abandonment.