Sadhguru
Should I keep my children dependent on me, or let them become free?
Liberate your child, don't bind him
Parents often find ways to keep a child dependent and attached, while they themselves say one should not be attached. Raise a child who is at least one step better than you. Otherwise the same nonsense happens once again.
You are doing everything possible to keep your child dependent on you in some way or other. You are not thinking of liberating him.