Sadhguru
How do I forgive someone who hurt me if I see them as my enemy?
Don't make an enemy, then you needn't forgive
We are the ones who turn a person into an enemy, simply by not liking the way they are, and then we try to forgive them. Why make him an enemy in the first place?
It is like being told, "Please forgive your enemies." But you are the one who makes someone an enemy. How? By deciding you don't like the way they are. Then they become your enemy, and then you try to forgive them.