Om Swami
What practical steps can I take to forgive someone who hurt me?
Seek forgiveness, then speak gently
If you want forgiveness in your heart as an emotion and not just as an act, learn to seek forgiveness. Then tell the person candidly but gently how their actions hurt you.
So seek forgiveness. If someone has hurt you, find out whether you may have hurt them badly. Then tell them candidly but gently how their actions hurt you and that you have not yet come to terms with it.