Om Swami
Who is it that feels grief, and can asking that ease the pain?
Ask who is feeling the pain
You are not only a brother, sister, father or mother; those are roles assigned to you, and your truest essence is eternal and infinite. From that view, the concept of grief, sorrow and pain does not really exist.
Once you ask yourself these questions you start to see that you are not just these labels; these are roles assigned to you, this is how you've identified yourself.