Swami Mukundananda
Why do relationships leave me dissatisfied, and where do I find selfless love?
Selfless love comes from God
You will not find a perfect friend in a material personality, so disappointment follows. The selfless love your heart seeks comes from God, the reservoir of love.
Then does the devotee become desireless? No. The devotee tries to understand what his beloved desires, and then desires to fulfill it.