Om Swami
Why can't I control my mind just by wanting to, and what should I do instead?
Wanting is not enough; redirect the mind
Control over the mind does not come from wishing for it, and talking to the mind does not take it out of a feeling. Move your attention elsewhere instead.
If the mind has fallen into one emotion, you cannot talk it out of that emotion. At that moment a person has to move their awareness, their mind, away and place it somewhere else.