Sadhguru
Is needing someone desperately the same as love, and why does it hurt so much when it ends?
Need is not love
Being helplessly in need of someone is like needing a crutch to walk. People think it is love, but love is a conscious process of turning your emotions into a certain level of sweetness.
No, love is a conscious process in which you decide to turn your emotions into a certain level of sweetness. If you can do it with everybody, it's fantastic.