Om Swami
What should I do if my spouse won't listen and I can't leave the relationship?
Find peace within when talks fail
Tell them what you need and negotiate. If you cannot leave and they will not listen, turn totally inward and find a way to peace within you. Hatred and negative feelings will not help, so avoid them.
If you cannot negotiate because they do not want to listen at all, then you have to find your own peace inside you, but negative feelings or hatred will not help.