Sadhguru
Why do I hate people who irritate me, and how can I stop?
Hatred grows from expecting others to be like you
Irritation starts because you have decided what is right and how people should be. When they are not that way, it grows into anger and then hatred. Understand the irritation instead of pretending to love the person.
Just see that irritation happens because you have fixed what is right and what is wrong. You have decided this is the right way to be.