Premanand Maharaj Ji
How do I keep my relationships strong?
Anger is born of desire, so offer your desire to your partner
Anger does not arise without desire, and when we offer our desire to our spouse, there is no question of quarrelling. A quarrel means your demand is one thing and the other person's wish is another.
Anger does not arise without desire. From desire comes anger, from anger confusion, from confusion loss of memory, from that the destruction of buddhi (intellect). If we have a desire, we lay that desire at the feet of our husband.