Sadhguru
Why do I suffer in my marriage even though I chose my spouse?
Marriage suffering starts within you
You sought a relationship and got a wife, which is what you aspired for, and when what you aspire for happens, you suffer. This is not about the wife but about yourself, because human beings find a way to suffer wherever they are placed.
This is not about the wife, this is not about the boss, this is something to do with yourself.