Om Swami
Why do I suffer so much when things don't go my way: is it hope or attachment?
Hope versus attachment
Hoping is natural, but its twin brother, attachment (moh), often comes dressed as hope. If a hope is not fulfilled, you do not abandon it, but where attachment is hurt, there is great pain.
Even if a hope is not fulfilled, a person does not give it up; he thinks, fine, it will happen. But when attachment is hurt, there is great sorrow.