Om Swami
Why do I keep remembering what someone said against me, and how do I see them differently?
See God in the person; beware negativity bias
The mind clings to one unpleasant remark, which psychology calls negativity bias, even if it came in an hour of talk. If no compassion and love for a person rises in you for someone in whom God is present, what have you worshipped?
If we could not worship God in that person, and no feeling of kindness, compassion, love, sympathy and empathy arose in us for them, then what have we worshipped?