Premanand Maharaj Ji
Why must I fix my own character before I can improve my relationships with others?
Reform yourself first
If your own heart and conduct are impure, you cannot bring gentleness into other hearts, so we must reform ourselves first. In Bharat it is character that is worshipped, and Ravana's one lack was character.
First we must reform ourselves. Until each person's character is right, this sweetness will not remain.