Premanand Maharaj Ji
Why do my relatives hurt me when I do good for them, and how do I stop feeling hurt?
Serve relatives for Bhagwan, not for thanks
When you try to bring comfort to relatives, they respond with something that hurts. If you want gratitude, you suffer when it does not come. If you see the relation as Bhagwan's, what you did was done for Bhagwan.
If we do not keep the feeling of our own relation with them but see it as Bhagwan's relation, then what we did, we did for Bhagwan.