Bageshwar Dham Sarkar
How can I stop being crushed by attachment when someone I love dies?
Sorrow lives in attachment
Sorrow comes from the attachment of calling someone "my own." No friendship and no enmity with anyone is the paramhansa state, and then you become free.
Sorrow comes only from the attachment of calling someone your own. Do not make anyone your own and you will not be sad, and do not make anyone an enemy.