Bageshwar Dham Sarkar
Why does a death in my family hurt so much when I barely react to news of other deaths?
Grief comes from 'mine', not from death
We do not grieve over death itself, we grieve because the one who died was ours. "This is mine" is the cause of sorrow, and "all this is Yours" is what makes one happy.
When someone of your own dies, you grieve for your own. You grieve because the one who died was yours. You do not grieve over death itself.