Bageshwar Dham Sarkar
Is love upasana or vasana, and how does Ram's love for Sita show it?
Love is worship, not desire
Love is upasana (worship), not vasana (desire). In the story, Hanuman told Sita that Ram had sent him, so he had come as Ram's arrow.
Hanuman asked what Mata was trying to say. Janaki said, so many days have passed, he has neither sent word nor shot an arrow. Hanuman said, the arrow need not be visible; it has been shot from behind.